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the past few months has been hard. very hard, when we were at high school verybody thought that as soon as I am done here I am going to work. that is not the case, job hunting is very stressful and demanding. The way of  living you used to changes and there is nothing more you think about except finding  a job.

That is very hard to find without connections, for to be working somewhere you  have someone on the inside. that proved to be difficult for  a  rural boy like me. nomatter how good you may be, but trust me you will stay unemployed until you find someone who might help you.

with all your distinctions you will stay unemployed and frustrated everyday. some days you feel like something is going to com up and your confidence is high but some days you just feel like packing your bags and going back home

A friendly advise from a person with first hand experience, if you still in uUniversity start appying for the job now and do not wait untill its too late. If you have a uncle working somewhere its about time you give a call

Some people say money is the basic foundation of all sins committed by human kind.  I would agree to disagree, some people kill whereas the motive is not money but love

Many people kill because of love. those who are more learned call it “love crimes”, at first I didn’t agree with this but now I see that it is possible, to me love is like an ocean, an ocean is beautiful and shining when it is still at its own place but when storms and curricanes comes, the ocean, the ocean destroys everything at the vicinity, and that is the disaster, so is love.

I like my Zulu when it says “okungapheli kuyahlola”  ( what never ends is dangerious). The male species were created in an unusual manner because when we perceive things, we tend to perceive and analyse them out of content, when a female species is rejecting you, you don’t accept that but you think she’s rejecting because she loves you, ” those were the days of SHAKA ZULU”, to me that is so stupid.

The female species on the other hand are weapons of mass destruction. These people can act when it comes to love. A girl can do whatever you want to get what she want and the weaker animal will fall for her saying she is the one(in your dreams), in the morning she is gone.

I know the feeling when you love someone and wish that no one can come near her or him, sometimes a person would kill her partner just because he didn’t want her to talk to other people( that’s love for you)

Some say love is blind, I don’t think so, love is like an automatic car, it would turn you into whatever it want you to be,in a blink of an eye you could become a bank robber, a hijacker or a murderer just because you want to please your partner. Love is very dangerious because it manipulate the two delicate superpowers of our body, the mind and the heart.

That is why sometimes people even go crazy when they have lost their partners. Why is it so difficult for a person to accept and say “well it wasn’t meant to be”. when you are still in love the mind and the heart are best friends, they drink tea together, and the mind gives up some sweet words for the heart to say to the loved one

But when there is trouble in paradise, the two superpowers turn into Russia and America. The heart stop pumping blood to the brain and the brain, short of resources decide that if I can’t have her no one should. After that, two things will happen, the one is going to jail for a life sentence and the one is going six feet under. Where there is love, it is rare that you will find a happy ending, ask me

There is a solution to this. let us all be like SANLAM and think ahead, don’t say to your partener “you know baby I can’t emagine my life without you” how was it like before you met him or her?. She left someone  for you so be prepared that one day she will do the same to you

ladies are like cows,they are always moving around looking for greener pastures,once they find it,they stay and eat that grass,once it is over they gone,forgetting that they found it green but they leave red.

Think ahead or lie in the coffin or spend the rest of you life behind bars. Love is a bomb waiting to explode so don’t play around with it because it could cost you life.

Welcome back to all my fellow bloggers, hope we all came back with the “joy of life” as MR Tebid would say.

Well this is a new year guys so lets us not dwell on things that happened last year especially the bad ones. Even the good ones we must not focus much on them but use them  as the ladder to start 2009 with the top gear. Black people of Africa let us stop distriminating each other, that time came and gone. This year is for us to holds hands and fight poverty. Since my arrival here at TUT, I have noted several discrimination amongst ourselves, namely discrimination on the grounds of language, ethnicity, culture and the most popular one “style”.

Some of us don’t associate with people who doesn’t dress like they do. People who doesn’t smoke and drink don’t associates themselves with non smokers and drinkers. WHY?. I like say that goes ” YOUR WORST ENEMY TODAY COULD BE YOUR BEST FRIEND TOMORROW”. Under the surname TUT I honestly don’t think students should be laughing when a fellow student is financially or academically excluded, what’s so funny about that?. We can’t predict what the future holds for us. Apartheid was divided into two and the way things are happening is looks like we were out of apartheid but apartheid never came out of us. Whether we like it or not blacks still feel inferior when they are amongst whites.

The whites are nolonger superior but the attention they get makes them fell superior  and continue oppressing fellow Africans. I had a chat with a group friends, well sort of an argument if I must say, we were arguing about which is better between dating a black woman and a white woman, what came to my suprise is that majority were saying they would definately go for a white chick,of which I totally disagreed, I mean no offence to the white ladies but I honeslty think that black ladies are more beautiful that whites. The white ladies don’t have that spark that a guy would want from a woman. We just giving them attention because they are white. Guys lets us take apartheid out of us.

My message to all of you guys and everyone who reads this blog is that”those who humble themselves will emerge victorious”. This  year think yourself as a soldier in the Vietnam war. In a war you don’t walk but you lie down and fight so that the straying bullets of the enemies won’t hit you. As were are here, we are here to fight for better and prosperious future but if you fight on your feet, there comes HIV, drugs and crime to hit you. Humble yourself and trust in God. Get down on your ness and your prayers shall be unswered.

In a nutshell, A good soldier doesn’t leave his fellow comrade when he/she has been hit by a bullet but he carriers her to safety.

A good student doesn’t laugh when other students are struggling with academics and socail life but he lend his hand and offer some help.

ENJOY GUYS! SEE YOU SOON.

As a human being you have various responsibilities and as you grow up, the more responsibilities you have. When you get a child, a girl child. you raise her up and groom her for the outside world , it’s your responsibility as  father or as a mother of that child.

You pay her school fees, take her to the doctor when she is sick, get her funeral policies and also pay her tertiary fees. Because she is a human being, she would fall inlove and want to get married. Now there start a problem!

It’s lobola time,as a father what is a reasonable and decent amount your should call for your doughter?. This started as tradition, to make that bond within the two families. But now people see lobola as the investment opportunity. The issue of lobala is more debatable, when they come for your doughter,should the lobola money cover all her schools fees from primary to tertiary?. Is this fair to the poor guy?

It si a responsibility of a father to raise her child and send her to school but does that mean ask a half million for lobola. Even the chiefs doughters are nolonger that expensive.

Twenty five cows used to be decent enough and you will  geta virgin girl. Now this people  involve themselves into sexual ictivities at the age of twelve. Now should I pay half a million on someone who has slept with the whole of South Africa?.

Some people don’t even pay lobola, which I think is good thing. In the oldern days, your would stay with your wife till death do you apart, but nowedays people have deviated from trust loyalty and true love. After having paid the half million, she leaves you for another men, what then?

Fathers should stop this phenomenon of asking too much money for lobola. This is not a chance for you to buy a new car. this is not an investment opportunity. You don’t raise your child to sell her, when she is old, she is not PIG!

LOBOLA IS JUST A COMPENSATION, TO SAY THANKS FOR RAISING HER AND NOW WE ARE TAKING HER.

THE ISSUE OF LOBOLA, THIS WHERE I THINK IT SHOULD END, SOON WE WILL SEE SAME SEX MARRIAGES.

THE QUESTION IS, WOULD YOU TAKE A LOBOLA FOR YOUR SON?

DOES LOVE REALLY EXISTS?.

HOW DO YOU COME TO A CONCLUSION THAT YOU LOVE SOMEONE?

LOVE IS BASED ON WHAT?

IS THERE A DIFFERENT BETWEEN “LOVE” AND “LIKE”?

Falling inlove with someone is a crime. We are social beings, it’s human nature to fall inlove with people you spend most time with. That is why so many people have a special love for their mothers. For a guy to get a girlfriend, is it because of wht he has or what he can provide?.

Something has come to my attention that around the world, as a guy you get a girlfriend based on what you have. Guys with pure love are always second best, so why fall inlove then?. I know it’s natural, but I think guys should make peace with themselves, that in life you don’t always get what you want. You will fall inlove but to keep yourself from embarrasment and pain, keep it to yourself.. Loving someone used to about his or her innerself and the looks were just a cherry on top. Ladies I think you must understand that it takes guts for a man to swallow his pride and propose to you. You are flowers of this Earth but flowers don’t behave the way you do. Does it hurt to tell someone nicely that you are not interested?, instead of biting the poor guy heads off?.

I think loving someone is about spending time with him or her and share everything. If you can’s get her as a girfriend,make her your friend. I know the feeling that sometimes you would want to hold her and kiss he, but life sucks!.

Love is so stupid, how can you fall in love with you know that she is out of your league( I WONDER WHO CREATED THAT LEAGUE), how can you fall inlove with Kanye West or Alicia Keys, the person that you will never even be in the same country with,let alone touching him or her?. I like the movie Hitch by Will Smith because it show all the challenges we as men face when proposing to a gitl. I also like the song ” I wish nam’ beng’nemoto” by Patsula.

Long walk to freedom, the path that was taken by many South Africans, some survived and they are now enjoying their freedom and SOME DID’T. Long walk to happiness, ask yourself AM I GONNA MAKE IT?.

If you do make it, while enjoyin your happiness with ur women, there comes an Audi A3, then you start a short walk to suicide.

So why not live a stress free life and become gays or lesbians?. Where do you think those people come from?. they were hurt so many times that they just lost their feeling to opposite sex.

DO YOU KNOW THE FEELING THAT YOU HAVE WHEN YOU WAKE UP?. THAT YOUR WOMAN IS WAKING WITH THE WRONG MEN WHILE YOU ARE WAKING UP WITH YOURSELF?

DON’T MIND ME FEELARS I WATCH TOO MUCH TV!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t blame South African citizens who blames the government for every thing that goes wrong in South Africa.

I want us to look at Xenophobic attacks from a different perspective.As far as I know no one has ever came out in public and supported these attacks.But no one has dared to look at motives of the South Africans behind this.I like the say that goes “WHEN YOU ARE IN ROME,YOU DO LIKE THE ROMANS DO”.Our fellow Africans did they do that ,NO!.We as South Africans are  to blame for letting these people feel too comfortable in our soil.You don’t come to my home and kill my favourite pet and stil expect to be welcomed and treated nicely.The late reggar singer Lucky dube(bless his soul),was killed by foreighners.In SA history, Lucky dube is the only national singer to draw supporters to full capacity in FNB stadium,like it was playing Kaizer Chiefs and orlando Pirates.Now you come and kill such a prominent person with such supporters(including me) and expect to live freely.

The government should recognise musicians who were singing against apartheid.After South Africa got independence,only politicians were recognised as heroes.what about musians who were arrested for playing “wrong” music,Now that we are free we forget about them.Lucky Dube had supporters across colour bar during the apartheid erra and he was preaching Africanism,the song “together as one”says it all..

These African people,if they want to live freely in our country,”LEAVE YOUR CORRUPT MINDS AT HOME,WE DON’T DO CHILD PORNOGRAPHY,DRUGS,CRIME AND WICHCRAFT”.

Obey the Rules or get the hell out of our country,we have fought so hard to let a bunch of crazy people spoil this soil for us.

PLEASE LEAVE US IN PEACE!

Well since it is women’s month I might as well dwell on them.Women are famous all over the world,you mention a women’s name, men’s faces gloate.Well who wouldn’t,when you mention the likes of Beyonce Knowles,Rihanna or Alicia Keys?.In fact all guys out there have girlfriends because they picture their women as Beyonce or Rihanna.

What happen’s when these two people get married.A husband enherit his fathers estate and money,There goes a weaker animal dating a colleague at work.The poor husbands will be getting SMSs and phone calls around twelve midday,” Hi love,am sorry am not gonna make to dinner tonight am working late”.The next day, the stuff is going out,the excuses just goes on and on. Then the corrupt wife starts counting your wealth,you’ve got no idea what is goung on( that is why women are best actresses), when she is with you,she gives you the best kiss ever.After seeing how much you have, they start planning your excecution.This phenomenon has became so popular that they don’t call it killing anymore,they call it CHANGING A PAY CHEQUE.When you go to a bank with a cheque(useless piece of paper )you get money in an exchange for it.She kills you and get money.Currently there is a case in Cape Town high court of the woman called Najwa petersen,the woman allegedly highered murderers to murder her husband Talliep Petersen,who was a musician,business man and a stript writer.The speculations in court is that she shot her husband herself.”WOMAN YOU ARE HEARTLESS”.

So guys,do you think it is safe to get married now?.Ladies is it safe for a man to take you under his roof?. Are you any different from a snake or a lion?. What should be done with these corrupt women?,because the law is linieant on them?.

TO A WOMEN WHO HAS KILLED SOMEONE, A HUSBAND AND THOSE YOUNG GIRLS WHO COMMIT ABORTION,THIS MONTH IS NOT FOR YOU.

“TO ALL OTHER GLOROUS WOMEN OU THERE,ENJOY YOUR MONTH RESPONSIBLY,YOU DESERVE IT”.

My fellow bloggers, please forgive me if you think I wrote this from a male persperctive.Let’s talk about women.We have seen many relationships break up,well let us not include the reasons.But the question remain”why the women are always seen as victims?”.If a woman comes out of a relationship,the man will be called names( which I don’t want to mention),even by his own family members.

I know that women are called “angels” but that does not mean they will always be angels.How many cases we have seen on the news that the man shot his wife or girlfriend then shot himself?.Out of ten women, how many are loyal to their husbands or boyfriends?.The women were declared physically weak but does that make their actions weak?.

During apartheid error many husbands went to exile and to jail,how many women waited for their husbands?.Looking at how rapid the law  protecting women in South Africa is changing,Should we stil say women are stil “weak”?.Do we consider the consiquences the action of the women to men?.Currently kwaito star Mandoza is facing charges of culpable homicide because he had an argument with his wife,others commit suicide because of women.So should we stil consider man as perpetrators of any problems arising from a relationship?

I DON’T KNOW WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Hi guys,well seing that all my fellow students have opened blogs talking about politics and all the hardcore stuff, then i thought myself let me open a blog where you will get to be owner,so in this blog we gonna talk about simple stuff that affect our lifes the most like love and other matters coz am sure we have all been victims of love so now is the chance to talk about your experience, share it with us so that we don’t fall to the same trap too!enjoy

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